Get over it..

People tell me “you’ll get over it”, “there are plenty of fish and even an app!” etc etc.  I know I will eventually get over her. That is what your brain does to protect you.  It is right now too close, too much of my life was spent loving this one person, and caring for and about her, and her kids, and feeling like a team to just "get over it."  I am not sure why I feel like, even though it is painful, grieving the loss is important and not to rush it too much.  The hard part is to also not dwell too long - which I sometimes do.  So I have to force myself to normalize and regain balance.  It's hard work.