Man-Trap?

I don’t know why I felt like I was being trapped.  Why would this person who loved me try to trap me??  I was clearly afraid of something that was not really going to happen.  So my reluctance to talk, fueled her fear that I was not in love, that I was not hoping for a long loving relationship, that I had a foot out the door.  Nothing was farther from the truth, but I never said that, not that I can recall.  I let her, by my absence of mind, continue to harbor fears and reinforced that insecurity.  Unforgivable thing to do.  I loved her, why could I not see that I was slowly hurting her and driving her away.  If I wanted to be closer and was receiving a cold shoulder, I would leave too.  The fact that she loved me as long as she did is amazing.  I frequently envisioned us together the rest of our lives.  I was fearful of a house full of 3 kids and high mortgage and being very financially exposed after having felt gutted by my divorce. It was understandable to have that experience taint my view point.  Too bad it was not as understood as I thought it was.